don't waste the pretty

From the words of Behrendt and Tucillo (2004):

"He's got so much good in him". That's why you fell in love with him in the first place. I know you wouldn't fall in love with an asshole. But here's the trick: forget about him and his good qualities. Even forget about his bad ones. Forget about all his excuses and what he promises. Ask yourself one question only: Is he making you happy? People are complicated.They are a mixed bag of loveable and dysfunctional qualities. That's why they are so darn confusing. That's why trying to figure them out is a waste of time. Is he making you happy? I don't mean some of the time, on rare occasions, not that often, "but the good still outweighs the bad". Does he make it clear in his actions every day that your happiness is important to him? If the answer is no, cut him loose and go find a man with a higher "good count".

And, at any mention of "friend":
what it should mean: I will never do anything to intentionally hurt you.
what it sometimes means: I'm just not that into you.

I will not be with a man who's afraid to talk about our future.

I will not, under any circumstances, spend my precious time with a man who has already rejected me.

I will not be with a man who is not clearly a good, kind, loving person.